day 3 and a trip to red lobster

I am doing the 42 day challenge which you can find more info at do42.com  I have certain challenges I have to follow every day.  I am going to try to blog every night and tell you how my challenge is going.  I know this will probably be boring for you, but necessary for me. 

1. Read the Daily Proclamation aloud each morning and night.   done- I tend to read it REALLY fast in the morning because I am in such a hurry to get ready but I do slow down in the evening and take in each word.

2. Compliment someone each day and say nothing negative about anyone.  I complimented my daughter on her hair.

3.  Stop eating BEFORE you are full - no problem

4. If you are doing any of these stop. Stop flirting, having affairs, committing fornication, looking at pornography, or communicating with a person who is not your spouse or who is an ex.- not doing any of them

5.  Do not get angry, curse or complain.  Do not gossip about anyone- I'm not one to curse very much but, I said "hell" yesterday...slipped out.  Won't happen again.  Not complaining is hard.  I have to make a conscious effort not to complain.  Who knew I complained so much!  And gossiping....I will start to say, "did you hear...." but then I think ohhh I can't gossip.  Again, not easy!

6.  Give someone something material each day.- done  I don't think I really want to elaborate on this every day because I feel like it's not right.  I don't want to feel like I am patting myself on the back for doing a nice gesture. 
 
7.  Pray and read scripture for your age in minutes daily.- I pray for 11 minutes in the morning and 11 minutes at night.  I also listen to an audio bible for 11 minutes in the morning and 11 at night.

8.  Follow the special body cleansing program- I am eating a vegan diet. I am only allowed to steam my food.  No cooking on the stove or microwave. 

9.  Drink half my weight in ounces of water.- done  I have to drink 72 ounces of water. 



I find it hard to not use other methods of cooking.  I accidentally warmed up an apple in the microwave because it was cold from the fridge and I'd rather eat it room temperature.  It didn't even phase me until the next day that I had used the microwave.  Things we do normally without thinking are hard to change.  I won't do it again though.  I am using my tea kettle to make hot water for my lemon water in the morning.  I'm not drinking coffee, which I thought was going to be very hard for me but surprisingly, I am doing well with it. 

I went to Red Lobster for my brother's birthday tonight.  Before I went, I researched online what I could eat.  I knew it would have to be a salad since I can't guarantee they steam anything.  I found one online that I could eat.  It had blue cheese on it so I was sure to tell the waitress no cheese.  I really wasn't tempted for anything else.  Even the cheddar biscuits which are DELICIOUS!!!  I was pretty excited that it didn't bother me as I am hoping being off sugar is going to make my brain stop these stupid cravings.  I have been craving chocolate something fierce!!

I was explaining to my daughter about the rules of the challenge.  I told her if I do something unintentional, it is forgiven and I can continue on the challenge.  However, if I intentionally did something I knew was wrong, I would have to start over.  (Hence the starting over on day 3 due to my yelling).  We made peanut butter balls and they looked and smelled sooooo good.  I stood there watching her eat one and I said how much I would love to try one.  She looked at me and in an instant shoved her half eaten peanut butter in my mouth.  She walked away and said "unintentional, you're welcome!" 

I love that girl!

I am really enjoying listening to my audio bible.  I always listen to more than 11 minutes.  I am also making a commitment to wash my face every day before bed.  I used to be really good about it but like everything else once I fall off the wagon, it's sooo hard to get back on.   I would be tired and just fall into bed not caring.  I would take time to brush my teeth but that would be it.  Now I listen to my audio bible while washing my face at night!  Perfect!  

I was starting to have trouble thinking of things to pray about.  I admit, normally my prayers are short and to the point.  This makes me really dig deep and pray about things that I normally wouldn't.  I like that.

I am going to post my daily weight to.  I actually started this challenge on the 21st at 146.1...this morning I was 142.7. 

That's it for tonight friends!  Time for my beauty sleep!

In light and love-
j

The meaning of Christmas

I failed my challenge already.  I made it to day 3.  I didn't fail because I ate something I shouldn't- which was a miracle because Cari and made peanut butter balls (dark AND white chocolate)!  I failed because I chose to get into an argument.  I was trying to stay as positive as I could but I could no longer hold my tongue. 

My argument was warranted in my mind and I couldn't hold it in any more.  When will we understand the meaning of Christmas?  When will we understand that it is NOT about how much or how little our money can buy?!  When will we understand Christmas is about our people.  Our people that surround us....our family, our friends and co-workers.  Christmas is about finding joy together from the year behind us and the year ahead.  It's about good food and better memories.  It's about laughter and spending time with the people you may not see every day. It's not about what I bought you or what I couldn't buy you this year.

Would you think less of me if I couldn't afford a gift for you this year?  Oh wait, if you are reading this, I probably couldn't afford a gift for you this year. 

Still love me?

Merry Christmas Friends.

Peace and love,
j

The next 42 days...

I am ready, ready to start the 42 day cleanse.  I am starting it today and it will go through January 31st, 2013.  I need positive in my life.  I need to cleanse my mind, body and spirit! 

I am committing to doing the 42 day cleanse. Here are the rules taken from do42.com

 

Basic Overview

1. Read the Daily Proclamation aloud each morning and night.
2. Compliment someone each day and say nothing negative about anyone.
3. Stop eating BEFORE you are full
4. If you are doing any of these stop. Stop flirting, having affairs, committing fornication, looking at pornography, or communicating with a person who is not your spouse or who is an ex.
   This helps to control the lust within you.
5. Do not get angry, curse or complain.
   Do not raise your voice in anger. Don’t allow anything great or small to make you angry or react in anger. Do not complain about ANYTHING. Not the weather, not the government, not the news, not your aches, not your money, not your kids, your spouse, your job, your car, traffic or anything else.
   Do NOT complain about ANYTHING!
6. Give someone something material each day.
   The size does not matter. Whether it is a dollar or a donut or buying someone’s lunch, You must give someone “other than your own children” something each day. At least every other day it must be someone OUTSIDE of your family. If you are member of a church, during this period you will give to your church as directed by your church. Concentrating on giving helps to control greed and realize your own blessings.
7. Pray and read scripture for your age in minutes daily.
   Find this on the Age/Minutes chart.
   This helps to control spiritual laziness and to know the Word and Voice of God.
8. Follow the special body cleansing program

Do’s	Don’ts
Do Read the Daily Proclamation each morning & night	Don’t commit one of the 7 deadly sins. No pride, no envy, no gluttony, no lust, no anger, no greed, no sloth.
Do Compliment someone each day	Don’t eat anything not on the body cleansing program.
Do stop eating before you are full	Don’t forget to drink your water!
Do Give someone something material each day	Don’t eat animal products of ANY kind. No dairy, no honey, no fish, no chicken, nothing derived from an animal.
Do pray and read scripture for your age in minutes daily	Don’t cook your foods (except for steamed). No baked, fried, grilled, microwaved, flamed or boiled. This also means no bread
Do listen to the 7 messages	Don’t use pre-packaged seasonings. No salt, pepper, etc.
Do the body cleansing program	Don’t quit
Do drink the proper amount of pure water during the entire 42 days.
Do Drink at least ½ of your body weight (Pounds) in ounces daily. For example, if you weigh 100 pounds, drink at least 50 ounces of water per day. If you weigh 150 pounds, drink at least 75 ounces, etc.
Do drink distilled water. It is best for cleansing.
Do drink your water at room temperature, not cold.
Do Use bottled water if you cannot get distilled.
Do use garlic & fresh herbs
Do eat steamed & raw foods
Do eat lots of living fresh foods. Fruits, veggies, salads, nuts, smoothies … Soooooo, what do you think?  Anyone interested in doing this with me?  I'm starting on Sunday July 15th and ending Saturday August 25th!  I need something to focus on.  Something to keep me positive.   I. Cannot. Complain. At. All. Bring. It. On. You can find the website HERE if you are interested in checking out more about it.  The eating gets more detailed on the website and I will be going through that here in more detail as I go along.   Did you read that?!  I can't complain.  I can't complain.  Ok, here goes nothing! Love and Peace, j

One breath at a time

Today started out really rough for me.  I had a doctor appt at 6:30am in South Bend.  I needed to leave my house by 5:30am.  This is early but not a big deal for me as I'm up early daily- my alarm usually goes off at 4:30am every morning.  I slept through my alarm only to wake up at 6am.  It's weird because I had no idea when I opened my eyes that it was that late because it is still dark out.  I hopped out of bed, put my contacts in and got quickly dressed as I knew my dogs would be needing to go for their morning walk.  As I came downstairs my eyes were not focusing correctly.  I received new contacts yesterday.  I could tell they were not going to work as nothing was in focus.  We did our morning walk and I fed all the animals.  I tried to call the doctor but they weren't open.  How is that possible when I am supposed to be there right now?!  I felt like just crawling right back into bed!  On top of all that, I went to bed with a stomach ache and it was STILL upset!  I ate pizza for dinner and it did not agree with me.

I start to head back upstairs. We have gates in a couple doorways to keep the dogs contained in a certain are of the house.  These gates are not always compliant with opening and closing easily so I decided to step over the gate.  Did I mention that I just had hip surgery a week ago and I should NOT be lifting my leg up over that gate?  I get one leg over and my other foot catches on the top of the gate. Down I go straight on the ceramic tiles (no it couldn't be carpet).  My knees mostly take the impact.  I swear when I hit the floor the whole house shook.  I laid there accessing my injuries and hoping for someone to come to my rescue...I started to tear up then just started laughing. Really?!  This is how my morning is going to be?!  The dog started barking but no rescuers.  I wanted to grumble and complain so I texted my friend Berta.  Told her I overslept- missed my appointment. Her reply was that I must've gotten a good nights sleep!  I have not been sleeping well AT ALL!  She was right!  I slept good!  I starting thinking about how awful my morning was but then realized how lucky I am to be alive.  I am allowed a crummy start to my day but how I react to it is what matters.  I know there are a lot of funerals in Connecticut this week and my bad morning is nothing compared to the grief they are going through.

I took some long deep breaths.  Took a hot shower and an anti-inflammatory (thanks for the reminder berta).  Called doc to reschedule.  I was able to reschedule for later today.  Yay!   Called the eye doc and took care of the contact issue.  I was able to enjoy my morning without rushing around like a mad woman. 

One breath at a time.  One day at a time. 

Remember if you are having a horrible day...step back....take a moment.  We are allowed to be upset, to feel cranky.  But don't let it ruin the rest of the day.  Life is just too short.

In light and love,
j

Foodies Pen Pals AND We are not failures unless we stop trying.....

Hello friends,
 
It's been about five months since I have been on here.  A LOT has happened in five months.  As you can prolly see, I didn't finish my 42 day challenge.  Looks like I made it to day 3!  Big Woop!!  Actually, I think I made it a little farther than that but stopped blogging.  Things got kinda crazy in my life and I let the challenge go.  I felt like a failure for it for quite a while.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realized- we only fail once we stop trying.  I am going to try again.  I want to make sure it is the right time and that I can completely focus my time on it.  The time will be soon. 
 
There is another reason I stopped blogging.  I'm embarrassed to admit it.  I started reading so many other blogs and I realized my blog sucked.  It's true.  I felt like mine really wasn't good enough.  There are some really awesome blogs out there!!  Then I started thinking how unfair I was being to myself.  If one of my friends or clients were telling me something like that, I would be appalled.  We have to stop comparing our worst with everyone's best!  I know people benefited from my blog but I started telling myself otherwise.  Why do we do that to ourselves?  Why is it OK to trash ourselves but lift those up around us?!  I am going to do my best to be better to myself.  I am going to stop trash talking myself.  I do it more than I would care to admit.
 
Long story short....I'm back.  My blog may be boring and not nearly as fancy as others but it's me.  And I am fabulous :)
 
I always read my friend Erin's blog.  Check it out here.  She has written about Foodie Pen Pals.  I have often thought of doing it but never did.  Finally last month I signed up!  I am so happy I did!!



                Laurel check out her blog here was my foodie pen pal.  She sent me this wonderful array of items!

I told her I am a vegetarian and she sent me this  Becoming Vegan cook book.  I have always stood at the line of becoming vegan but I have a hard time crossing that line mostly because

 I. LOVE. CHEESE!  There I said it. I am a cheese nut.  I am sure I will be able to use many of the recipes until I decide if that line is worth crossing. 

 She also sent me a smoothie book.  I love the idea of different smoothies so this will help me get out of the rut of always having the same thing.  I am a lover of cook books too so these books will go lovely in my collection!

Besides being a cheese nut, I just love NUTS!  As we all know, nuts are calorie dense but we don't want to skip this healthy option of total yumminess.  I am thankful for the 100 calorie pack of nuts so I don't go overboard.  I keep a pack of these in my purse at all times because you just never know when you will need them.  The other box is strawberry mango fruit twists.  Can you believe these are CLEAN?! Yeah I didn't either until I read the box!!  They are by simply balanced, archer farms.  I've never had them but they are delicious!!  Each pouch is only 80 calories and they are perfect for stashing in my purse for times when I just need a little something.  She also sent me some Strawberry Spread that is made with ingredients you would use to make in your own kitchen.  I am a strawberry freak too so this is Perfect!!  (they used to call me strawberry shortcake when I was a tot...not only because of my red hair but my love for strawberries).  Laurel must have known my hands were extremely dry (stalker) jk-because she knew I needed some lotion.  She said it was her favorite and I agree- LoVe iT!  

 

Next month instead of foodie pen pals, we are donating to those victims of Hurricane Sandy.  I encourage you to donate!

 

That's it for tonight friends.  It's good to be back!  Did you miss me?!

 

The mind is a powerful tool!

Hi Friends,


This is day 3 on my 42 day challenge.  Check out my previous post if you are wondering what the challenge is, or you can check HERE!


This is what I have to do-

During this 40 day period for The 40 Day Miracle I , __Janet_ , pledge the following:

Number One: I pledge to read this statement aloud each morning and night (This statement is much longer but I cut out a lot for you to get the shorter version.  For the entire Daily proclamation click HERE!

Number Two: I pledge that I will compliment someone each day and will say nothing negative about anyone.  

Number Three: I pledge that I will stop eating BEFORE I am full.  

Number Four: If I am doing this, I pledge that I will stop flirting, having affairs, committing fornication, looking at pornography, or communicating with a person who is not my spouse or who is an ex.

This helps to control the lust within me.

Number Five: I pledge that I will not get angry, curse or complain. I will NOT complain about ANYTHING!

Number Six:  I pledge that I will give someone something material each day.

Number Seven: I will pray and read scripture for my age in minutes daily.

Each morning I will pray for 11 minutes and read scripture for 11 minutes.

Before bed I will pray for 11 minutes and read scripture for 11 minutes.

1.  I honestly think the hardest part is reading that proclamation every morning and night.  That is  a mouth full!!  

2.  Complimenting someone is easy.  I am around a lot of people every day but I am specifically trying to complement people that I do not know too.  I went to Jimmy Johns to get my dad lunch on Sunday and complimented the cashier.  I told him I loved his curly hair!  

3.  I have been eating small meals of fruits and veggies so not getting full is easy.  Last night though, I did fail a little.  I had friends come in from out of town and we went to Albanos.  I ordered a salad and it was loaded with cheese (supposed to eat vegan).  If I didn't have the cheese on it, it would have been a pretty boring salad.  Since it was only day two, I didn't feel so bad about messing up.  But then again, day 1 and day 42 are as important and all the days in between.  Ok, ok, don't make me feel any worse! 

I am also supposed to drink about 70 ounces of water a day which is not a problem.  

The picture below has been my daily lunch.  I adore this salad.  It has spinach, romaine hearts, strawberries, pecans, tomatoes, avocados and sun dried tomatoes.  I am not allowed any dressing. Oh boo!

4.  I am not doing any part of number 4 so I'm good there.

5.  Saying nothing negative and no complaining goes easy for a while but then when you feel the need to vent...ummm not so much.  Sometimes I do state things without it coming out as a complaint but other times, I just bite my tongue.  I very rarely get angry and curse, so that part is easy for me. 

6.  Took my dad lunch with fresh cherries on Sunday.  He was inside by himself all day watching TV and I know he doesn't eat well.  I took him a veggie sub from Jimmy Johns.  I had a bad migraine Sunday (just stating a fact) and did not feel like running out to get his sandwich and taking it to him.  I just wanted to lay down.  However, I left his house feeling like I made a difference in his day!  I could see how happy it made him.  Yesterday, I gave a friend a basil plant.  I have one of my own and I know how awesome it is to be able to have access to fresh basil.  My friend is struggling with her weight and I thought this might help her enjoy some fresh summer salads with no guilt.  Today, I brought another friend two clementines and a banana.  I made a smiley face out of them.  I also wrote an note on the banana.  She inspires me to be a better person and I wanted her to know it.  I think this one of my favorite parts of the challenge.  It makes me think more about everyone around me and how I can find something small to brighten their day.

7.   I am having a hard time getting the prayer time in the morning.  I doubled up last night and I know that isn't acceptable so I will do my best to improve on that.  I am excited about the prayer time because normally my prayers are short.  I'm not proud of that but this does open my mind more to praying and being thankful for more things in my life and those around me.

My boyfriend Tommy is doing this challenge with me.  His hardest thing is the eating.  We can only steam our food and are not allowed any other form of cooking.  So far, we have only eaten our fruits and veggies raw.  I am going to get the new steamer out of the box tonight and make a portablella sandwich with it.  We are allowed one veggie patty a day as long as it is less than 280 mg sodium.  I will use some of my fresh basil, tomatoes and portabella mushroom caps.  We can do this!!  I am thankful Tommy is doing this with me.  It makes it much more bearable.  

Annette, Shelly and B are doing it too!  A big shout out to them as well.  Keep up the good work!!!

When we were going to Kroger on Sunday, Tommy was being tailgated by another car.  He said, "Yes, please drive a little closer to me, then maybe we can bump and have some friendly conversation."  Way to go Tommy.  Keepin it positive!!

Do you want to join us in this transformation?  Can't do all of it?  What if you just picked one or two things and tried that for 42 days?  I know you have it in you!  We just have to make up our minds and the mind is a powerful tool!!

This is only day three and I already feel a hundred miles away from how negative I was feeling!

In peace and love,

j 

Fall down seven times- get up eight.

It's been one month since I last posted.  What has happened you ask?  I hurt my back and couldn't work out for part of the month.  Instead of dealing with it sensibly, I did what anyone would do.  I couldn't work out so instead, I ate. And ate.  I was depressed and in pain so I ate. And ate.  


You know the ole saying, you eat like crap, you feel like crap?  Uh huh, I feel like crap, which only makes me more depressed and want to eat more!!  Huh?!  Why do we do this to ourselves?  


I get REALLY nervous when I am injured.  It's hard because I NEED my ENTIRE body to be functional in order to do my day to day classes.  I have a lot of women depending on me to be open so they can get their workout in.  In a perfect world, I would have another certified instructor to teach my classes and extra money to pay them!  NO worries right?!  Of course, all the "what if's" start running through my mind.  What if I have to cancel my classes and my customers started canceling?!  What if I let my clients down?  What if they are disappointed?  What if I go back to teaching too soon and re- injure myself?  We can play the "what if" game all day and get more depressed right?!  


I started making excuses for not "having time" to head to the grocery store, started eating out more and thus my journey began.  No I REALLY DIDN'T HAVE TIME- because I was watching Lie to Me reruns on Netflix.  True story.


I was TOO busy feeling sorry for myself to care about what I ate!  But I am here to tell you, I have fallen but I am getting back up.  I went to the grocery (because I watched all the seasons of Lie to Me and there are no more to see- true story) and I got a ton of VEGGIES!!!  Yahoo!!  Yippee!!!  I made delicious salads and some juices too!  I miss my juices!! 


So I am letting you all know-  I am only human.  I crave sugar. I eat sugar.  When I eat sugar, I crave sugar.  I hate myself for it.  I eat crap, I feel like crap.  


Enough of this pity party.   I'm declaring war against this funk I'm in!  




I.  Will.  Win.


Peace and Love,
j